Time to Walk Away

So a friend of mine sent me an email the other day stating she no longer wished to be friends because it seemed that I was no longer interested in her life.

Why did all this happen you may ask? I had a busy week and a half and was unable to sit on the phone with her for hours. My hectic week made her believe that I was no longer interested in her friendship.

I was not upset when I received her email. I had been waivering for a while whether or not to end the friendship, though i was sort of planning on taking the cowards way out and just sort of letting us drift once I moved. I started to realize that there were a lot of things that I liked about this friend but she was changing and not for the better. There is such thing as too much therapy and too much self attention. She went from this sweet woman to this self centered, egotistical terror. Everything had become about her and if you said anything you were jerk since she was learning for the first time how to assert herself and she was taking control of her life and learning all of these things about herself.

Look, I do not discount therapy and all of those things. They do wonders for people. But when all therapy does is turn you into a self centered brat thats not okay. Thats not the point of therapy. I get if someone feels as if they've been walked over or have no boundaries to start to stand up for themselves but you don't do that with friends. I don't know very many people who take a "my way or the highway" stance with people they love.

I guess I'm just confused. I've always had independent friends. You know the kinds of friendships where you can go weeks, months, potentially years without speaking to these people then out of the blue pick it back up with nothing more then "hey, things have been CRAZY!! What's up with you" and its as if no time as passed. I thought this friendship I had was like that and I thought i had gotten rid of all the people in my life who were co-dependent friends. I guess thats not true. Its sad.